This month on the 'dating show' the team discuss love at first sight.
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This month on the 'dating show' we hear from a woman who found love online and a Dutch fashion expert gives 'luke warm' dating tips.
Transcript:
R: In this edition we hear from some-one who’s found love on line ..
E: We get advice about creating a online dating profile that works.
R: Now...love at first sight – does it really exist..?
E: Yes?
R: Does it?
E: Of course!
R: Have you ever seen someone and gone WOWWW!
E: You know that's the sort of thing with aliens isn't it? You hear about it existing but you have never actually seen one and....it's true, I've never actually fallen in love at first sight.
R: I have! Now researchers in America in Ohio have recently carried out a study which reveals that people do actually decide on what sort of relationship they want in the first 3 minutes of meeting someone.
E: Well I think that is definitely true.
R: I mean, I decided within 3 minutes that I didn't fancy you at all!
E: -tired laughter!- Is it true that you take 3 minutes? It's all about body language and stuff like that isn't it.
R: So, here on The Dating Show from Lovesongs247.com, we wanted to find someone who had found their perfect match with online dating. We met up with Jilly Hudson from London (UK) who found love using internet dating. She spoke to us at a windy cafe on the South Bank of the river Thames in London, England and gave us some rather exciting news.
J: We've decided we're to move in together!
E: That's amazing
J: Yes. It's all, you know, selling the flat, finding a house and yes building our life together really.
E: So, this is after how long?
J: We met in October last year. We were talking to each other for around about a month before we met up and it's really gone from there. I just instantly knew that he was `the one`.
E: Where did you go for your first date?
J: Our first date was actually one of the coldest dates ever at Kew Gardens (south west London, UK) and we just spent the whole time walking and getting to know each other because until then, all our communication had been by email.
E Why did you choose a place like Kew Gardens? Often people go and have a meal or they go for a drink, why did you choose to go to Kew Gardens?
J: I didn't choose it. He did. So, it was his choice about spending the day there but they've got like a little cafe and stuff there, so we could have some lunch but also it's quite mutual territory where we could just like walk and chat and just get to know each other.
E: So it's sort of took the pressure off in the sense that you didn't find yourself facing somebody that you couldn't talk to? You had something that you could talk about as you walked around on your date?
J: Exactly.....look around at what was going on there.
E: I know that it wasn't always easy to find somebody when you were online dating? It took time and you had to keep looking, and there were times when it was quite disappointing? How was that period for you?
J: It was quite challenging because as somebody who is naturally quite shy, taking the knocks can actually be quite tough but you've got to actually be resilient and not take it too personally.
E: Now tell me, how did it actually feel when you knew that the chap that you had meet, when you got to Kew Gardens and you kinda knew that this guy was the one? How did that feel, that you had found him?
J: It was lovely, it was just like....We had been talking to each other for so long it was just finally meeting him was absolutely fantastic. What was nice was that it just felt so natural and we just didn't stop talking all day.
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R: That was Jilly Hudson from London (UK) who found love online with online dating. We have a surprise guest coming in soon...a fashion expert...
E:....oh really....
R: ...and his name is 'rude'...
E: ..rude?....
R: Ruud!
E:...sounds exciting....-laughs- Now you want to create a good first impression when online dating, so one of the most important parts is your profile page as that is the place where people spot you first by your photo and your write up. Emma is from OlderDatingOnline.com and she tells us how to get ahead.
Em: It's very important to have a good profile on the website because this is your chance to show yourself off to other members before you first speak to them. So, your profile is the first thing people are going to be looking at before they decide to message you. So, if your profile doesn't show you in a positive light, people are more likely to just pass you by.
R: So what sort of things make a good online dating profile?
Em: Some tips I would give for making a good online dating profile. I think it is important to keep it simple, as people won't be bothered to read a really long detailed paragraph. You also don't want to give too much away. So, the idea is to leave them wanting more and intrigue someone enough to make them want to message you and find out more. All you need to do really is write a little about yourself. So, are you single, divorced, widowed? What do you do for a living? What do you like to do in your spare time?..and then it's also good to let others know what it is you are looking for on the dating website. So, identify whether you want to meet people in a particular age range or with certain habits, like non-smoking for example. And, I would say, a touch of humour in the profile and the photos are always good and go a long way.
R: Ok. And the photo? That's got to be important as well because if you are looking around and you can't see the person then that's going to put people at a disadvantage isn't it?
Em: Yes, definitely. I think a photo on your profile is equally, if not more important than writing something about yourself. So, people are a lot less likely to chat to someone with online dating if they cant see what they look like. So, the photos probably the first thing people are going to look at when looking for a date online and people tend to know instinctively if they find that person attractive from their photos. So, yes, it is very important, yes.
R: And how honest should you be with both, because in a way you are trying to sell yourself to try and attract people but should you be totally honest with the photos?
Em: Yes. I think you should always be very honest with both of them because the truth will come out in the end. Starting an online relationship where you haven't been totally honest with each other, wont go very well for a long term relationship. By all means use a photograph of yourself where you are looking at absolutely at your best but there is a difference between using this and a photograph of a model.
R: Now, you work in the customer care team at OlderDatingOnline.com. What are the stats on all this. If somebody has got a photo and a profile, how much more likely are they to meet somebody and have a date?
Em: Your chances of meeting someone online are 100 times better if you've written something about yourself and have a few good photos. This is definitely true of members who send in their success stories to the office.
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R: That was Emma from OlderDatingOnline.com. Now, our surprise guest has arrived. We are joined in the studio by Ruud from the Netherlands.
Rd: -comic accent- Good afternoon.
R: A fashion expert who is wearing rather a lot of leather! Nice.... leather trousers Ruud! Are they red, maroon or burgundy?
Rd: No... this is the blood colour. This the real bulls colour because you know I am not a vegetarian. I like to have real animal all over head to toe.
-laughter-
Rd: I'm joking of course...it's plastic !
E: Isn't it a bit hot?
Rd: Yes
R: Ruud on a first date, should people be smart or casual?
Rd: I don't know actually.
R: Smart or casual?
Rd: Yes. On a first date, it's always difficult, You need to make a good impression. Maybe yes.....maybe one half smart, one half casual. Smart on the top, casual on the bottom.
-laughter-
E: What clothing items do you think are real dating winners?
Rd: I think the flared trousers are coming back into fashion definitely. Wide flares, like YOU are wearing. They are from the 70's but they are coming back into fashion...flared trousers and very tight tops. For the women anyway.
R: Should you actually go out and buy a special outfit or just stick with what you know?
Rd: Well in YOUR case, I think it's obvious that you need to go out and buy a special outfit.
-laughter-
Rd:.....but in the case of this lovely lady here....you know...wear what you are wearing. Beautiful. No problem “baby”.
-laughter-
E: Thank you so much! Many men are a bit clueless about fashion. What do you think the ladies like?
Rd: Well I know what the ladies like but I can't talk about this on the radio!
R: Ok, thanks very much Ruud.
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R: Now next time on the dating show, blues eyes? Brown Eyes? Green Eyes? and attraction. There is a rather interesting study we look into and one of us goes on a date!!!