You’ve met someone through online dating and you’ve got yourself a date, you’ve arranged a time and a place to meet, but all of a sudden you have a little bit of a panic to yourself. How should I act? If you’re a man, you start to wonder if you should pull out the chair for the woman? You wonder if you should split the bill?
You get yourself in such a state you think there are so many things that go wrong you start to wonder why you’re even going out in the first place.
Now here at Lovesongs247.com, we obviously want to help people find love and not be put off by what could be the wrong thing to do when you’re on a first date.
Of course, you want to impress them and to do that, you obviously need to know the right etiquette. So Rod from the Dating Show had a chat with William Hanson, an etiquette expert, who gave us the low down on dating etiquette.
If you’d like to listen to their chat, and it’s well worth a listen, William really brings the subject to life, then you can below.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4uLKQdXwh8U
Or, you could always read on if you fancy reading a transcript of their conversation.
W : You have this concept of chivalry, now chivalry used to be sort of knights of the realm, the knights of chivalry treating damsels in distress, or otherwise, nicely. Actually chivalry today extends to anybody. Women can be chivalrous towards men, woman can be chivalrous towards women, men can be chivalrous to men. Obviously if a man and a woman were going out on a date, the man should still pull out the chair for the lady. If he knows the lady is really going to baulk at this and not like it, then don't do it, but if it's someone who doesn't know whether they like it or not, then do it the first time. Similarly, the women shouldn't bit their hand off for doing it, it was just a nice gesture, they're not patronising the woman. It is just a nice thing, such as holding open the door. It's not because they're the weaker sex. It's because they are a human being.
R: With social media, with smartphones, with texting and all these different things that we're trying to cope with at the moment, you've sort of gone through the etiquette of face to face, but what about the etiquette of texting, e-mailing, where are we on that?
W: texting and e-mailing is very interesting, because obviously it's come in very recently, and I think still as a society we're finding our feet. We just need to apply basic common sense, and then we will be fine. If you are going out to someone's house for dinner, don't take your mobile phone out at the dinner table, put it in your pocket, turn it to silent and respect the host who might have spent all day cooking a lovely meal for you. Similarly, if you're going out on a date, or you're going out with a friend to a restaurant, don't sit there on your mobile phone. Focus on the human, not the gadgets. The humans are much more important than these devices and I think why people do focus on their tablets or phones or laptops too much rather than people is because these social skills which 50 years were part and parcel of every day life are not being taught anymore. They are insecure, so they are hiding behind their devices.
R: When you're texting or e-mailing people, what's your advice on that?
W: If you're going to send someone an e-mail, an e-mail is an electronic letter. If you're e-mailing someone you do not know, you follow the conventions that a letter has. You would start with "Dear Sir", or "Dear Madam", if you didn't know their name, that would end with "yours faithfully.” If you did know their name, you would start with "Dear Miss Smith," then end with "yours sincerely." You don't have to follow those conventions when it's someone you know, as it becomes quite informal and you can have a back and forth. It does annoy me when people e-mail me with "Hey William", when they ahve absolutely no idea who I am, or they've never met me. It's too informal. It is true, familiarity breeds contempt.
R: And texting?
W: Texting? If you're going to do it, obviously you have to make sure everything is spelt perfectly, because people judge you by your text. If you're sending a text to someone you don't necessarily know particularly well and it's full of typos and abbreviations and silly little smiley faces, then they are going to form an opinion about you, and if it's a juvenile opinion that you want to cultivate, that's absolutely fine, but just think about how you are perceived. If only people thought about all what they put on today" or what they didn’t put on today" or how they’re coming across on the telephone or by text. You have to think what is that other person going to think of me? Have some self respect and hopefully you will go further.
R: OK. And just one final question for you William. If you had to pick one nugget of advice you could give people?
W: Whatever you do, don't call it a toilet, because it's a lavatory. Toilet's an awful word. Toilet was actually your make up and your wig back in the days of the French and English court. The actual thing is a lavatory, and that is what you're going to, unless you're going to powder your wig of course, when you can say I'm going to the toilet.
R: Well I normally call it a khazi!
E: I hope you didn't tell him that.
R: I've just sent him a text, smiley face, saying cheers mate for the interview.
E: He's going to love that.
-laughter-
E: To be honest, I felt that he was pretty scary although some of the staff that he says I do actually find correct, like opening the door is definitely something. If a guy doesn't open the door, if he's walking to the door and I'm there and he doesn't let me go through first and hold it opener. I just think to myself what a commoner.
R: Really?
E: Absolutely! And the thing about the toilet, I know it's hysterical, but I never call it a toilet. I always say "Excuse me where's the bathroom?"
This is an excerpt from February’s Dating Show.
To listen to the full show, click here.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jddx9wom7Oc&list=PLYlbYTQk2qlZdopk4uLpSSb52CiPCPmd0&index=1
What is the chill out show on Lovesongs247.com?
You’ve probably heard Debbie Russ on the station as she presents one of our new shows, the chill out show on Lovesongs247.com. You probably also recognise her voice from a few of the adverts in between the songs.
We thought we’d catch up with Debbie, as the show’s been running for a few weeks now, so she could talk to us a bit about why she loves presenting the Chill Out show on Thursdays and Sundays, and why Lovesongs247.com is the perfect radio station to listen to when you’re looking for love on online dating sites.
We also thought we’d pick her brains about one of her characters that she plays very convincingly, Pepper Dove. If you’d like to hear more from Debbie talking about how she can get you in the mood for finding love online, you can listen to our chat with her below – and we recommend you do, she has a fantastic voice, as you already know.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wp3ZmfJ1yDQ
Or, you can read a transcript of our chat below.
R: I'm joined now in the studio by Debbie Russ, who's one of the presenters on Lovesongs247.com. Debbie, you present the chill out show, just tell us a little bit about that.
D: Chill out is the perfect sound for relaxing with a loved one to get you in the mood for love or if you're on the dating websites to help you in the frame of mind to find the person that you can love.
R: Ok, you've got a fantastic voice! -laughter-
D: Thank you Rod.
R: SO as well as being one of the presenters on the station, you also do some of the adverts as well. One of which is Pepper Dove, who is an interesting character, just tell me a little bit about her.
D: I'm very fond of Pepper, she's a bit of a man eater, but I think in her heart she's quite lonely and desperate for love and she's also quite playful I think, and a bit of a cougar. She's quite fun to do.
R: Just give a little blast of Pepper now.
D: -sexy voice- Oh, how would you like me to be?
E: Wow Debbie! -laughter-
R: Wow!
E: She's made for other things. -laughter-
R: I know.
E: Awesome voice, she has a lovely voice.
R: She has a great voice, and she presents the chill out show on LoveSongs247.com which is a great radio station to listen to if you're online dating or just want a bit of nice music in the background because they've got loads of different stuff, soul, chill out with Debbie, blues, jazz and also northern soul.
This is an excerpt from February’s Dating Show podcast. If you’d like to listen to the full show, you can here.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jddx9wom7Oc&list=PLYlbYTQk2qlZdopk4uLpSSb52CiPCPmd0
We thought we’d catch up with Debbie, as the show’s been running for a few weeks now, so she could talk to us a bit about why she loves presenting the Chill Out show on Thursdays and Sundays, and why Lovesongs247.com is the perfect radio station to listen to when you’re looking for love on online dating sites.
We also thought we’d pick her brains about one of her characters that she plays very convincingly, Pepper Dove. If you’d like to hear more from Debbie talking about how she can get you in the mood for finding love online, you can listen to our chat with her below – and we recommend you do, she has a fantastic voice, as you already know.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wp3ZmfJ1yDQ
Or, you can read a transcript of our chat below.
R: I'm joined now in the studio by Debbie Russ, who's one of the presenters on Lovesongs247.com. Debbie, you present the chill out show, just tell us a little bit about that.
D: Chill out is the perfect sound for relaxing with a loved one to get you in the mood for love or if you're on the dating websites to help you in the frame of mind to find the person that you can love.
R: Ok, you've got a fantastic voice! -laughter-
D: Thank you Rod.
R: SO as well as being one of the presenters on the station, you also do some of the adverts as well. One of which is Pepper Dove, who is an interesting character, just tell me a little bit about her.
D: I'm very fond of Pepper, she's a bit of a man eater, but I think in her heart she's quite lonely and desperate for love and she's also quite playful I think, and a bit of a cougar. She's quite fun to do.
R: Just give a little blast of Pepper now.
D: -sexy voice- Oh, how would you like me to be?
E: Wow Debbie! -laughter-
R: Wow!
E: She's made for other things. -laughter-
R: I know.
E: Awesome voice, she has a lovely voice.
R: She has a great voice, and she presents the chill out show on LoveSongs247.com which is a great radio station to listen to if you're online dating or just want a bit of nice music in the background because they've got loads of different stuff, soul, chill out with Debbie, blues, jazz and also northern soul.
This is an excerpt from February’s Dating Show podcast. If you’d like to listen to the full show, you can here.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jddx9wom7Oc&list=PLYlbYTQk2qlZdopk4uLpSSb52CiPCPmd0
What should you wear on a date?
You’ve been chatting to someone online for a while after you signed up for an online dating site in your search for love. You’ve decided to bite the bullet and go for a first date. You’ve arranged the time and venue, and you’ve getting ready. There’s only one problem. What should you wear when you’re going on a date?
When you’re going on a date, you don’t always know what to wear.
You need to give the right impression, you don’t want to put everything on show – so to say – but you don’t want to appear like a nun. We thought we’d have a chat to a fashion expert from the Netherlands and see what he had to say on the Dating Show. Although, we suspect he may not be a real fashion expert and he may not be from the Netherlands… If you’d like to listen to our chat with Ruud, you can do so here.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vCOClp4BxSk
Or, you can read a transcript below.
R: We are joined in the studio by Ruud from the Netherlands.
Rd: Good afternoon.
R: A fashion expert who is wearing rather a lot of leather! Nice leather trousers Ruud! Are they red, maroon or burgundy?
Rd: No, this is the blood colour. It’s the real bull’s colour because you know I am not a vegetarian. I like to have real animal all over, head to toe. -laughter-
Rd: I'm joking of course. It's plastic!
E: Isn't it a bit hot?
Rd: Yes.
R: Ruud on a first date, should people be smart or casual?
Rd: I don't know actually.
R: Smart or casual?
Rd: Yes. On a first date, it's always difficult; you need to make a good impression. Maybe one half smart, one half casual. Smart on the top, casual on the bottom. -laughter-
E: What clothing items do you think are real dating winners?
Rd: I think the flared trousers are coming back into fashion definitely. Wide flares, like you are wearing. They are from the 70s but they are coming back into fashion, flared trousers and very tight tops. For the women anyway.
R: Should you actually go out and buy a special outfit or just stick with what you know?
Rd: Well in your case, I think it's obvious that you need to go out and buy a special outfit. -laughter-
Rd: But in the case of this lovely lady here, you know, wear what you are wearing. Beautiful. No problem "baby". -laughter-
E: Thank you so much! Many men are a bit clueless about fashion. What do you think the ladies like?
Rd: Well I know what the ladies like but I can't talk about this on the radio!
R: Ok, thanks very much Ruud. This is from October’s Dating Show. If you’d like to listen to the full Dating Show from October, you can here.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6KskpXp9k5k
Or if you’d like to listen to the newest edition, you can do here. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xsOEVY727vU&list=PLYlbYTQk2qlZdopk4uLpSSb52CiPCPmd0&index=1
You need to give the right impression, you don’t want to put everything on show – so to say – but you don’t want to appear like a nun. We thought we’d have a chat to a fashion expert from the Netherlands and see what he had to say on the Dating Show. Although, we suspect he may not be a real fashion expert and he may not be from the Netherlands… If you’d like to listen to our chat with Ruud, you can do so here.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vCOClp4BxSk
Or, you can read a transcript below.
R: We are joined in the studio by Ruud from the Netherlands.
Rd: Good afternoon.
R: A fashion expert who is wearing rather a lot of leather! Nice leather trousers Ruud! Are they red, maroon or burgundy?
Rd: No, this is the blood colour. It’s the real bull’s colour because you know I am not a vegetarian. I like to have real animal all over, head to toe. -laughter-
Rd: I'm joking of course. It's plastic!
E: Isn't it a bit hot?
Rd: Yes.
R: Ruud on a first date, should people be smart or casual?
Rd: I don't know actually.
R: Smart or casual?
Rd: Yes. On a first date, it's always difficult; you need to make a good impression. Maybe one half smart, one half casual. Smart on the top, casual on the bottom. -laughter-
E: What clothing items do you think are real dating winners?
Rd: I think the flared trousers are coming back into fashion definitely. Wide flares, like you are wearing. They are from the 70s but they are coming back into fashion, flared trousers and very tight tops. For the women anyway.
R: Should you actually go out and buy a special outfit or just stick with what you know?
Rd: Well in your case, I think it's obvious that you need to go out and buy a special outfit. -laughter-
Rd: But in the case of this lovely lady here, you know, wear what you are wearing. Beautiful. No problem "baby". -laughter-
E: Thank you so much! Many men are a bit clueless about fashion. What do you think the ladies like?
Rd: Well I know what the ladies like but I can't talk about this on the radio!
R: Ok, thanks very much Ruud. This is from October’s Dating Show. If you’d like to listen to the full Dating Show from October, you can here.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6KskpXp9k5k
Or if you’d like to listen to the newest edition, you can do here. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xsOEVY727vU&list=PLYlbYTQk2qlZdopk4uLpSSb52CiPCPmd0&index=1
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